Negotiation with the commander of the first part

Negotiation with the commander of the first part

Negotiation with the commander of the first part, we want to express in several parts.

What are the constraints that hinder our change and success?

first word

I have a question:

Who do you talk to most during the day?

We humans talk to ourselves more than any other person during the day.

We are constantly having an internal dialogue with ourselves.

For example, you are probably talking to yourself right now.

It is true?

This inner dialogue sometimes like when we are resting,

before sleep,

When we want to make an important decision,

times when we experience an almost intense emotional load and in certain moments,

More than ever.

And it is even very challenging.

And it has a great impact on our decisions and behaviors.

second word

As you know, our body is controlled by the brain.

It is our brain that gives all kinds of commands.

And what we do is the result of this commander’s orders.

One of the things that this commander does is to conserve energy and reduce body metabolism.

That is, it tries her best so that we use less energy.

This issue is more intense when we decide to do something new.

For example, how many times have you decided to start reading a book?

And you have postponed it once to Saturday of the following week and once again to next month and after that you said to yourself that you will start reading books in the new year?

It can be said that one of the reasons we delay things is to save energy.

The third word

Often times, our internal dialogue becomes a negotiation with the commander.

We enter into negotiations with the commander, and unfortunately, we often fail in negotiations with the commander.

Because the commander wants to consume less energy.

And we want to seek change and progress.

It can be said that one of the main differences between successful people and ordinary people is their success in negotiating with themselves.

Successful people win by negotiating with themselves.

Three models of determinism

(Stephen Covey) in the book (Seven Habits of Effective People), describes three models of determinism.

Algebras that hinder our change and success.

A) Genetic determinism:

People who are involved in this determinism believe that the behaviors and things they do or cannot do are due to genetic reasons inherited from the family.

The following examples are examples of this determinism model:

*I am a low-intelligence person, because we are like this in a family.

I am a sleepy person.

We are a family like this.

* We have no talent at all.

My parents and family have no talent either.

It cannot be denied that we inherit from our families.

But it cannot be assumed that these inherited characteristics cannot be changed.

Some of these characteristics are related to our appearance.

Such as eye color, hair style, and such things that may not be easily changed.

But the behavioral characteristics that we inherit can be changed.

Don’t forget that we are human and we can change our circumstances.

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